Im in love with my best friend but hes dating someone else
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In time, I realised I was in love with him. You also need to learn from this, and next time you have feelings for a woman, act on them when you have them.
I had really major self-esteem issues, and he has a mess of depression issues, so these things playing off of each other led him to decide we needed to back off. I tried loving others, but it never worked out.
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You missed your chance with her a long time ago, and she doesn't sound like that great a partner alcoholic, severe depression. Hang in there, move on, because this, too, shall pass. In all that time you never stepped up to the plate and told her what you feel. You're grasping at straws, hoping they're as incompatible as you want them to be but the news flash here is IF you are to do anything i would say drop her a message saying something quick and simple.
It will poison so much, including how you feel about yourself. Then there are other times -- when our anticipation takes root and grows over months or years of waiting -- when real life pales in comparison to our fantasies.
If he's that wonderful, these feelings can be revived I mean, you specifically chose to not meet him until he had a girlfriend even though you seem to have had an inkling that he was into you romantically.
We expect more than we're likely to get.
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Keep him as a nice fantasy but find someone who is truly available. If someone's taking up that much of my im in love with my best friend but hes dating someone else, we'd better be dating, or they can get lost. All that having been said, I don't think it would be inherently bad if you returned from abroad and remained in touch with him as friends possibly while hoping he and his girlfriend break up, as jbenben said above.
And I actually don't see this guy's behavior so far as being very honorable, but Matchmaking league don't expect you to believe me though. When he told me they moved in together I said that was incredible and his response was something like 'well I wasn't doing much else and was bored, so it seemed like the natural thing to do.
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Cause I get trying to break them up makes me look bad and well I don't think she will believe me right now anyway with the honeymoon phase going on. Statistically, the odds are incredibly poor that he will leave her for you and the two of you will then live happily ever after. You can't save her and like someone drowning she'll drag you down with her. Nail her best friend.
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The update needs to be about the solution. He wrote me a letter asking if we could meet and I came up with excuses. Just wait, he'll find his way 'home' to you.
I am a skinny dude who loves friggin video games and studying to be a technologist. I am truly am thinking about each comment.
Your username is how other community members will see you. Sex is a common theme in our conversations, and when in public it's very very rare we pay our separate ways.
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Tl;dr - this to me is not "love" but I call love a hard, self-sacrificing, family-type bond. I know this isn't realistic seeing as he is taken and I am no homewrecker. He also talked of his admiration of me and mentioned that I was "beautiful" seemingly in passing.